Mickism....

First - If you call to say that you "had words" with your husband's ex-wife (or as you call her, Baby Mama)...I am going to automatically side with the "Baby Mama".

Second - Having your husband's back does not mean getting involved and completely take over in matters related to his ex-wife and children.  Having his back means that you offer moral support in those matters and help him to determine the best way forward..  Again...I am going to side with the "Baby Mama".

Third - A strong man wouldn't allow you to get into beef with his ex.  He most certainly would not allow you to be a sitting duck for the verbal assault.  Perhaps he believes that you deserve it.  #TeamBabyMama

Fourth - As the new chick, you are NOT to discipline (i.e. HIT) their children.  I wouldn't blame the "Baby Mama" if she knocked on your door and knocked on your head.  Just sayin'.

Fifth - Know your place.  Stay out of all matters related to child support, discipline, etc...You shouldn't be initiating any conversation about what he pays, what he should do and what he shouldn't do.

I don't get this...I don't understand these women that completely insert themselves into child support matters and beef with the ex.  You knew before you married that so-and-so has to pay out the nostrils for child support and that his ex could lead him by those same nostrils.

As long as the ex calls my home with some sense ("Hello Michelle.  May I speak with *bleep*?") and calls at reasonable hours, then we are good.